Life Lessons on My Birthday
This post was originally written for Oakmoss, a collective that I started a few months ago. The creative team is awesome and I am so glad that we're all able to work together. Be sure to check it out and tell us what you think, and join in on the collaboration opportunities as well!
You should never say no to help.
- There were countless times when I was at a loss for what to do, I needed advice in a situation, or I just couldn't get something completed by myself. I was hesitant to ask for help at times because I didn't want to seem incompetent or weak. In all honesty, it takes humility to ask for help. That is one thing I am really glad that I learned this year. I'm not better than anyone else, I'm not too good for another person's help. Saying, "Hey I don't quite understand, can you help me out?" is a great way to get better at something and build strong connections.
Don't wait until tomorrow.
- Tomorrow may not come. You may not have time tomorrow. That person might need to talk today. The opportunity isn't likely to be sitting around waiting until you're ready. Life keeps moving, even when we're tired or busy. Make the most of everyday and make time for those people in your life! I am so glad that I've learned this lesson, although at times it was a hard lesson to learn.
Live with less.
- Learning how to live with less is something that I started to learn over the last few months. I've moved back home from college and then to a new live-in position at an Inn and the constant packing and unpacking is exhausting! Next weekend I am helping my fiancé move into his new apartment and it got me thinking: We just don't need all of this stuff. I am slowly downsizing, selling and donating clothing and knick knacks that I no longer want or need and it just feels so good! Living with less is freeing.
- Growing up, I had the hardest time saving money. I'll admit, it is still hard for me to save over a few hundred dollars. This year I started a budget and asking myself do I really need this? (it helped with #3 as well). I've slowly been creating the habit of saving up for a rainy day and it feels great, knowing that I can be secure if something were to happen.
Kindness is best.
- This one is an ongoing lesson that I am learning. It is good to be kind. It is good to be nice and polite to people in your life, and even to strangers. We hear the phrases "Be kind to everyone because you don't know what battle they're fighting," and "No act of kindness is ever wasted," but how many of us are really that selfless? It is a constant decision, just like love, to be kind to others. This past year, just like every year, I have been offended, tested, hurt, selfish, angry, and completely oblivious to situations. In each of these times, I had a decision to respond with kindness or do my own thing. I would love to say that I responded in kindness each time, but I didn't. For this I apologize, but I am learning and growing and blooming. Kindness is important; Christ calls us to be compassionate and loving (and this includes being kind to people!) You know, "treat others how you'd like to be treated?" Every day I am trying to be a little kinder than necessary and hope to encourage others to do the same.