Steering Clear from Unhealthy Competition - A Tiny Traveler

Steering Clear from Unhealthy Competition

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Every now and again I get stuck in this rut of comparison. It isn't always that bad, and in fact sometimes it motivates me to do better with my blog, my schoolwork, or my creativity.  Other times it leads to jealousy or I end up doubting myself, which is no fun. I'm sure a few of you have been there, or are maybe struggling with it right now. I'll be completely honest, when 5 (yes, 5!) of your close friends are planning their weddings for the months leading up to yours, it can be hard not to get jealous or at least compare your ideas and decor to theirs. It stinks.

And no, I'm in no way saying that I'm not happy for my friends, because I truly am! But I've never really been one to have a lot of money, so it's hard to make ends meet and  have the wedding of your dreams at the same time. So yes, sometimes I see a venue or hear about really cute favors and think "wow, I really wish I could afford that..." and then I feel terrible because it isn't really about the venue or the favors. It's about celebrating Mark and I's love and union together and it's about the wonderful marriage afterwards. Sometimes I can really see how much growing up I have to do.

Lately I've been trying to avoid comparing myself to others, my blog to other blogs, and my wedding plans to how I think they should look like. Then something dawned on me. Competition and comparison aren't always terrible things. They can definitely lead to jealousy and self-doubt, but what if we looked at these a little differently? What if we used them for motivation instead of downfalls?

So lets talk about unhealthy competition and how to stay away from it by listing a few ways you can benefit from those tendencies toward comparison. 

First, when I start to compare myself or my ideas or my blog to what others are doing and creating, I talk down on myself. "Natalie, why do you even bother?" "Look how successful they are! I'm trying but no one seems interested." "How in the world can I ever expect to gain traffic and readers when I have that to compete with?"


Stop the negativity towards yourself and your work. If you are doing what you love, wearing what you love, creating what you love, then you have no reason to be talking down on yourself. If you know that your content could be a bit better, then think about ways to improve instead of wasting time looking at all the flaws you think there may be. It saves you from feeling crumby and gets you moving towards improvement when you cut out negative self-talk all together. Repeat after me: "I am a smart, creative, confident person." 

Next, think about what it is you're comparing. Is there a competition you can gain from, or is it just "Who has more followers?" If there is an element like page tabs, clean images, or social media icons on a blog you love and you don't have those, get them! There are plenty of tutorials on how to obtain better images and cooler graphics online. There is no need to sit and complain that your blog doesn't have a certain element when installing one is right at your fingertips! Below I have a list of my favorite tutorials for blogs (and yes I'm still learning too) and different fun things you can use to spruce up your website. 

Finally, after you stop the negative self-talk and you freshen up your blog a little (if need be) then take a few hours just doing something you love. Take a little time to enjoy yourself! Read a book, take a bath, go for a walk, watch a movie, write a letter to a friend. Taking time to enjoy yourself is one of the best ways to unwind and get your creative thoughts moving. Then make a list of things that you want to get better at, whether that is vlogging, photography, or posting on a more consistent basis. Then start practicing that until you feel comfortable and see growth! 

Bottom line is this: don't get jealous or sit and complain about a, b, and c. Get up and use your competition as a push towards improvement. Let the competition be healthy. Let's face it, the online world can be a competitive one but staying positive and constantly trying to do your best and learn how to get better will do wonders!

A Tiny Traveler's favorite tips for blogging and website additions:
Check out this site to make cool graphics like the one in this post!

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